Proud Mummy Moment

It’s the little things that mean so much, but it’s also the little things we tend to forget. My son had been playing with his play kitchen this morning. I’m not sure what was happening in his own head but there was clacking and giggling; opening and closing, and the odd bit of babbling and dancing. 


10 minutes is about enough playtime and then it’s on to something different. George is still only 24 months old so either hasn’t mastered what clearing away toys is or he’s playing me like a champion. As I went over to scoop away his trip hazards I noticed a little box of eggs that had started this playtime as completely separate pieces. He’d tidied them back together and into their box. It made my heart melt. My little boy did that. 😍


I realise I’m showing you a box of toy eggs and expecting you to get all gooey inside. Well actually I’m not. I know this makes me a big softie but I’m actually just sharing my emotions. I don’t expect you to have the same emotion as this is a classic “baby bore” post. I guess I’m just saying that it’s the little things that make us proud as parents: not just being top of the class, walking at the average developmental milestone or going potty for the first time. Don’t get me wrong they are all moments that make us proud but between those “big” moments there are lots of tiny filler proud moments that keeps our baby love counter topped up. I just didn’t want to forget this one. 

So the next time a mother (or any parent) shows you a picture of a box of toy eggs; or a scribble on construction paper or a picture of the child smiling covered in last nights dinner: instead of thinking “oh my I’m supposed to be excited about this?” Instead think “well that nice you’ve got something so simple that makes you so happy”. 

You might see a few more proud mummy posts popping up but at least I’ve explained myself now. 

Do you agree with me or do you think this is just a baby bore post? 

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Jealousy Worries After Having a New Baby

I had always wanted more than one child. It boils down to my own experiences as a child. I grew up with an older brother and we are so close and have been from since before I can remember. We may have had a few sibling arguments but on the grand scale of things I love him to bits and I loved having a big brother growing up. I wanted to have children and my children to have a similar experience. However, all children are different and I know plenty of people who have children that don’t get along. What if my children do nothing but fight and bicker? 

What if my children don’t get along?

Throughout the pregnancy people would ask if I was worried about my eldest George being jealous of the new baby. I would say that I wasn’t overly concerned. George is quite independent for a baby in a sense that he’s not too clingy and will happily play with other people and children. As he is so sociable I thought all would be well when the new baby came home.

Olivia came home 6 weeks ago and there was a new look that George cast which I had not seen before. It was a look of suspicion. It didn’t appear at first but when he noticed that this tiny person was demanding a lot of my love and attention he just couldn’t figure out why. I did my best to play with George where I could and I would talk to him even if I was holding Olivia to let him know I loved him still. 

Will his suspicions grow into more sinister feelings?


After a week George started to do a fake cry or throw tantrums for no reason. He would also bring me things such as his toys or food when I was feeding Olivia. I know he was just resting whether I still cared about him. Eventually, he started to look less suspiciously of Olivia. 

I suppose it is hard for him as most of the day she was sleeping in her Moses basket and so out of sight, or in my arms so out of reach. A newborn is not a play thing and they don’t do very much that would interest a 23 month old. 

He’s not mean to her but he just doesn’t know what to do around her


After 3 weeks George started to come around. I was cuddling Olivia on the sofa and he climbed up for a cuddle too. I was able to get my other arm around him. He had his suspicious look about him as he reached over to Olivia. Then he smiled and said “baby” before gently stroking her head.   I gave him the biggest smile and agreed “yes, Olivia is your baby sister”. He smiled back and then settled in for a cuddle. I think it was at that point he accepted that I could be shared and that I still loved him. 


Those beautiful moments have started to come more frequently. He will rock the moses basket and if he’s running he will slow down to carefully step around her if I’m playing on the floor with her. I can see he enjoys getting the positive smiles and attention from being kind and this is making for many a cute moment between the pair. 

I think he loves her


I hope they love each other as much as I love my big brother. 

Is It really Goodnight for Toby the Bear?

A beautiful children’s story which reminds you of the love they have for their comforting companions. But where can I get it from? 

I’m going to start off with an apology. I’m sorry but the book I’m about to talk about isn’t actually available for sale anywhere. Although, maybe if there is enough momentum I may be able to convince the author to publish.

Many moons ago, before I was even married, my sister-in-law showed me a children’s book that she had written and printed. Not only had she had developed a character called Toby who was a little girls teddy bear but she has also beautifully illustrated every page. Paula told me the bear had got his name from a cheeky little Jack Russel dog she remembered lived next door to her when she was younger. 

I remember being really impressed. It was printed and bound so I had presumed at the time that it had been published. I was wrong.

I am now married and have 2 children so some time has passed. Then yesterday I remembered this book. How wonderful would it be to read the adventures of Toby to my own children? I asked Paula if the book was available to purchase anywhere and she told me that it had never been published… oh no!

I couldn’t bear for Toby the bear (no pun intended) not to be shared with the world so I decided to write a post about him.


In the book Toby goes to bed with his beloved pal. Each page shows the little girls routine and how Toby is lovingly dragged or dumped in various places around the house as she perpares for bed. 

Here Toby is being taken carefully upstairs 


Now it’s time to brush your teeth. Careful Toby.


Toby continues on his bedtime journey and eventually end up being lovingly tucked into bed with his adoring companion.


I do hope I haven’t ruined the ending


What I love about the book is that it teaches a good bedtime routine. The book keeps to a simple routine with words but the beautiful illustrations allow you to talk more to your own child about their own routine. It’s nice as you can relate it to your own little one and their soft toy or comforter. My son has a soft toy called lamby. He will not sleep without it and take him everywhere. I’m so scared of losing it he’s not allowed it outside the house. For outdoor adventures he has monkey, who is now becoming an almost equal to lamby… oh dear. 

Paula has made many more illustrations in preparation for a series of books about Toby’s adventures, but alas they are tucked away. I do hope she reconsiders releasing the book and hopefully making some more books for children to enjoy. This surely can’t be the final goodnight for Toby… can it?

If you think you would like to see more of Toby please share or leave a comment.

Thank you for reading

Goodnight 

Getting Support For Breastfeeding

This is just a short post to raise awareness of a new resource that has started up in the UK to map all the breastfeeding support groups.

It had been started by a mother of two beautiful children who champions all mothers and seeks to support mothers who want to breastfeed. She promotes breastfeeding and baby wearing in a supportive and non-judgemental way. 

When my son was born he had a severe tongue tie causing him to have difficulty latching. He swallowed more gas leading to trapped wind and possetting. It also lead to breast and nipple damage with me. Despite being highlighted at birth,  it took 23 days to resolve as “due process” had to be followed. During this time I could have given up breastfeeding but I received support from my local breastfeeding group and friends which helped me to persevere. Their advice also helped me to get the procedure to resolve my sons tongue tie done as quickly as possible… although 23 days seems like a ridiculous amount of time. 
Please share, especially if you think there aren’t many groups in your area. There may be groups that need adding to the list and just haven’t got the word out yet. It may also inspire someone to start up their own group.

Facebook-  @thebreastfeedingmap 

Cuddles With My Cuties

There’s something about having a cuddle with your baby or child that strikes an inner calm. I don’t mean the cuddles you give when your baby has wind or they’ve taken a tumble and need comfort. I’m talking about those “just because” cuddles. 


I’ve been appreciating those cuddles recently. It’s a time when time doesn’t matter, I am in the moment with my baby and they are there with me. It’s a time when they can feel safe and loved and where I feel like my love for them folds out and over them like a warm blanket. 

We listen to each other breathe, give light tickles, rest our heavy heads, and flex our toes as we relax and just enjoy the moment together. 


It’s easier to find a moment to enjoy these cuddles with my 6 week old Olivia than with 2 year old George. He loves to explore the world with his toy car, cook in his kitchen or count to ten and spot shapes over and over. However, this makes the times when he comes in for cuddles extra special. It’s important not to miss those opportunities. More often than not just a touch of physical contact is all George needs… just so he knows I’m there and visa versa.

So if you come to visit one time and my house is a mess, I have a pile of ironing and I’m not even dressed pleased don’t presume I’ve been lazy. I’ve been showing my children how much I love them. 

It is simply bliss. 

I’m often guilty of rushing around so much that I don’t stop long enough to take stock of what is happening. If you’re guilty of that too I hope you find the time to have a minute and enjoy the moment. It really helps me to clear your mind and put my objectives into focus. This stopping helps me to get started again… only happier. Some might even call it meditation.

What has made you happier today?

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5 Top Tips For Hiking with Toddlers and Babies 

5 Top Tips For Hiking with Little Ones

I love being outdoors. I grew up with the countryside on my doorstep and the fresh air reminds me of my childhood and the bliss of nativity that comes with it.

I didn’t really discover hiking until I was in my mid 20’s but now I find myself longing for a good long walk. However, now I have children I have found that there are limitations to how far I can go and the routes that I can take. This is my quick guide to helping you strike the balance between getting your hiking fix and ensuring your children can manage the distance or route.

These tips are for those who want to go on hikes that are not pushchair friendly.

Top tip 1. Invest in a good quality child backpack 


These can seem pricy, especially when you can pick up much cheaper child carriers but you are paying for structure and support which you will need if you are on a long hike. My backpack is made by Osprey and has a sunshade for my little one, can be adjusted for my child’s size and also has backpack capabilities for storing the days food and the essential nappy changing facilities. It allows for ventilation around the baby and you for added comfort.

Top tip 2. Avoid the rain


I personally have avoided going on a hike when there is a likely chance of rain. I can’t think of anything worse than having a wet baby or toddler and being miles away from somewhere warm and dry. This is mainly because with my backpack I can’t actually keep my baby completely out of the rain. On these days I’ve chosen to visit a local park instead where we can walk with a pushchair and cover or be close enough to a cafe or the car to keep dry if a shower does hit.

Top tip 3. Take the right protective clothing.


This means in winter your baby or toddler should have enough layers on along with a hat and gloves to keep them warm. You need to remember that if they are in a backpack or pushchair they will not be keeping warm though exercise like you can can easily get cold if they aren’t properly dressed.

Being properly dressed goes for other extremes as well. In the summer you should have factor 50 sunscreen on hand to apply and reapply during your hikes. Children have more sensitive skin than us oldies and need to be protected. They should also have a sun hat or be kept in the shade where possible. If you are babywearing a smaller baby make regular checks that your baby is not overheating next to your body. If you need to stop and find some shade then do so. A Muslin cloth creates a good shade if you can’t find natural shade where you are so keep that in your hiking pack.

Top tip 4. Plan hikes with regular pit stops


It is completely feasible to change nappies in the great outdoors and have regular snack and water breaks as needed. However, having a cafe/pub to look forward to is a nice motivator when you’re pushing yourself to get up that steep hill. If you are out in either hot or cold weather, it’s also good to know you have a place where you can reapply suncream or check baby is coping with the layers for the cold. You can assess whether your children are going to be able to cope with the remaining hike. Sometimes you can get caught out, maybe it’s windier than you were expecting and the best thing to do is to have someone fetch the car while you keep the kiddies protected from the elements. In any case, pit stops are good for morale.

Top tip 5. Build up your distance over time


When I first started hiking I followed a 4 mile circular walk in the Lake District from a pocket guide. After falling in love with hiking I walked larger distances and eventually settled on walking around 13 miles every Sunday. I followed a similar pattern when I started walking with my children. One reason for this is I had delivers my first baby by C-section and I was unsure of my limits: I didn’t want to be miles from a road or civilisation and realise that I had reached my limit and couldn’t go on. In addition, I wasn’t sure if my baby would have handled being carried for a longer distance and didn’t want to make him ill or have a dreadful day because I wanted a longer walk. It is important you build up your walking distance to ensure you don’t exceed the limits both for yourself and your children. Safety should be your top priority.


I hope you have found these tips useful. Generally you just have to be sensible. I walk on a regular basis around Derbyshire, UK. Don’t forget to follow me or drop me a comment if you are interested in hearing more about my hiking or want to know any routes I follow.

What would your 5 Top Tips be?

Thank you for reading. Have fun hiking.

Every Pebble an Adventure

There’s no doubt about it, the world is an incredible place. Our problem as adults is that we are so habituated to seeing the world around us we often forget it’s wonder. However, a child doesn’t look at the world this way. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have this viewpoint again?!

I was visiting a relative this weekend with my 2 week old baby and 2 year old son. My newborn was receiving lots of cuddles and this gave me a chance to play with my son and watch him explore his surroundings. Although there is repetition to what he liked: hiding behind a door or cabinet; running away when you say “ready, steady…go” or never ceasing to grow tired of walking up and down steps, I loved watching him explore and make periodic stops to take in the world. He would stop every now and then to look at something, jog on the spot and laugh. He would look at me as if he wanted me to share in his excitement. Although I didn’t quite know what tickled him I would smile and be excited as it was so wonderful to see his joy.

We explored the garden and it occurred to me that everything in the garden was new to him: new plants; different paths which were effectively a maze,and an intriguing glass house with the most wonderful sliding door. He pottered around for such a long time re-running the same route and babbling to himself. He absolutely loved it and I was there sharing it with him. It got me thinking how amazing the garden must be for him and what he might be thinking as he re-ran his route… would he be thinking up a story in his head? Would he be looking for objects to associate words to?  Would he be looking for a means of escape from my gaze to go independently exploring? Who will know? 

I’ve rambled on but other than thoroughly enjoying spending time with my family today, I want to start looking at my world with fresh young eyes. I am so accustomed to being busy and this allows stress in. I need to start looking at the world as if it’s the first time I’ve seen the colour green, the sky or just the pavement I walk along. If I can appreciate the world likes child does even for a moment during each day then maybe it will slow me down enough to stop me stressing and keep me topped up with a feeling of contentment and happiness. Be careful you might just spot me stopping when I’m out and about and just laughing… would that be such a bad thing? 

What would ou look at with h fresh eyes today? 

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Waiting to Start? – A Quote For Motivation

I’m not sure if anyone else suffered from an invisible mental barrier like I do when it comes to starting a new project. I am at a point in my life where I feel like I need a change in career, I am about to have my second child and I want to make a better life for myself and my family.

One thing that I do have in the bag though is self-belief. I have felt under appreciated for a long time in my current career and there is a part of me that knows I can do and deserve  to do better. Well, I’m not going to sit around and wait for that “better” to find me, I’m going to go out there and get it! Watch out world!

If you are having a down day today, please feel better about yourself; no matter how much you feel you are down-trodden or under appreciated, remember to love yourself and believe in yourself.

Here is a quote from Michelangelo to get you motivated and dreaming big.

“The greatest danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim to high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark”

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